Hey guys(and girls)... well this is my first blog entry.. So what should i write on it ? Perhaps more about myself? nah~ Im thinking more fun stuff like why do i name my blog first love or what does mushimoshi means or even why do i even want to create a blog in the first place. Im sure everyone wants to know ey ? *wink*
First of, love its because i find that love is the most important thing or perhaps the most valueable possession that one should not only have but also to enjoy. Loving someone and being loved is 2 different matter indeed. Everyone wants to be loved, cared, pampered but do they offer the same thing back ? Most girls like being pampered... they love all the attentions they can have but sadly most of em' just dont know how to show the same attitude towards their partners. If u come to think about it, they are quite selfish!!!! Y they are selfish is because they "expect" that they are the only ones that should be the centre of attention and receive the gentle and sweet kinda treatment. HEY~~ What bout' us!!!! We guys wants to be pampered as well!!! We want our pool game, our guys night out and certainly our basketball(if u are a basketball fan like me)!!! Why cant they see that ?? We want the same thing they want too... we like to be cared, we would certainly like them to pay attention to us.... and most of all we want them to be understanding~~ girls these days are like -hey why didnt you spend more time on me, dont go to basketball go shopping with me... tomorrow is valentine's day, where are my chocolate and roses ??? (duh valentine is tomorrow???) I like the pink ones not the yellow ones..... you still dont know what i really want...... The truth is they can go shopping for like hours and we cant have our 1 hour basketball practice ? And they go like, its not fair.... u spend 2 hours with your buddies but only 5 hours with me today.... (they invented a new term for fair as well??) Amazing huh??? Now, you will ask me, is it wrong that the girls want to be loved by their partners? The answer is obviously no... i will quote the next sentences from a website.... i will put the link down so that you guys can have a look urself.... its a pretty cool website~~~ so if u have some time go and have a look!!!!
"Love is a noble act of self-giving, offering trust, faith, and loyalty. The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don't become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved ones"
There's is no wrong if u are asking someone to love you more.... you will just have to bear in mind that you will have to earn that love, the same thing goes with the saying you will have to earn that trust. It's very important that you trust someone that you love and have faith in em' and certainly be loyal. These are the things that everyone should offer to their partner. I will also quote a verse from the bible that speaks about love.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
1 Corianthians 13:4-7 (N.I.V)
I found that this verse is very true and complete....Apparently loving a person is a noble thing, but it's also very hard to accomplish. Sometimes we just cant be everything that they want. And if for that reason the relationship break down. Well i truly believes that finding a partner is not like picking apples. When we have a bite and if it doesnt taste good we just throw it away. When we choose a partner, and if we ended up thinking that oh~ she's not my type....oh she has changed... i dont like her anymore.... It is a very sad situation for both parties when it comes to that level. Both party will get hurt, some can get over it but some might just waste a period of their time thinking... what have i done wrong.... why is he treating me like that.... Trust me this feeling isnt a really good one. And the worse case is when the girls wants to break up with a guy..... and the guy just cant handle the pressure, he might do "something" to her... at the end of the story, they will have wasted a huge amount of their life...isnt that tragic??? how can we allow such thing to happen to us??? Why all these sorrows and hurts??? We dont need all these...
The solution is.... before me make any decision to take the the relationship 1 step further.... we should really think, would i want to be with her for a long time.... what is going to happen if she changes??? will i still be able to love her like i used to???? What if she got a disease, will i be able to take care of her ??? can i be around to cuddle her and tell her that she is going to be ok when she has a fever??? What if after being with her for awhile and u found out about her darkest secret and her most disgusting habit that she has been trying to keep it from you??? can u forgive her???? We have to ask ourself clearly, what do we really expect from the relationship.... and really really think about the future with your partner... I always believe that we should choose a partner that we would like to spend most of our life with.....there are so many things to keep in mind when u want to start a relationship with your partner.... i just named a few..... try to think about it first so that nobody gets hurt at the end of the line. ^^
Just to cover up my little secret about love, i think that we should always enjoy ourself having our partners around us....a couple dont really need to have the same interest, the same hobby, the same type personality.... whats important is can we adapt to each other and how our weaknesses and strength can match up and form the perfect couple. Oh and also... please please never talk about her past, if u like her as she is now... that's what that's important just the the past bury itself ^^ And to bottle things up.... here is another quote that i think is quite nice~ ^^
"Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.""
Thats all for today~~~im tired already~~~ oh yea~ i called it first love, because i want to dedicate these first blog to my loving partner (a.c) Just want to tell you how much i love you and that i hope to spend the rest of my life with you!!! lets go through the hurdles together and enjoy the sweet times we will come to. Love you lots~ Thanks for reading my blog eh~ mayb its abit boring..... but this is what i thought i should point out! take care and god bless!!!
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